Victories, and struggles

Each of us as individuals encounter victories, and struggles...

Each of us as couples encounter the very same thing. It is hard to see the good in the moments of darkness.  When we see the light, it is hard to think of bad times. We desperately need to seek solace in the Lord at all times, in all places, so that we can stay on the forward moving path to  to find ways to keep our bond strong and build the marriage muscles to be stronger. 

sometimes... we are wrong in our thoughts and actions and our better half is there to bring us to reality so we have to give and keep giving. 

The mingiling of two lives into one harmonious state of marriage

{Sometimes is not so harmonious}

Bringing two different people, from two different backgrounds, with 2 different family lives, different morals and expectations, and 2 different ways of life, and bringing them together, to build a life together and mingling the 2 lives that have been so different.  Can be difficult.  Not always right and wrong ways of life, but just different. 

Remembering that you are in love at the most hostile of times in a relationship, can be the hardest thing.  At some point you were so madly in love, twitter-patted and couldn't think of anything else but your sweet partner. Love makes us oblivious and unfocused on other things but each other. 

Work to remember that you chose that person, and you loved them.  

The power of love, is one of the greatest forces that can not be broken.  Our Father in Heaven is the perfect example of true love. He loved us enough to give his son to us. to let his son feel all the pain ever known and new that sacrifices bring blessings. 

Love can conquer all. Love can break through any barrier and bring each other to know of the real love of our Savior. 

This week brough lots of times and things that made me laugh as I learned what my mother always talk about spring. Back in the day after the winter homes would be cleaned such as spring cleaning. I have this it is here in Arizona it's a little opposite. Spring cleaning happens before summer because it's so hot. It may sound funny that were cleaning even though were stuck in our homes for four months during the hot months. It helps me to know that things are in order and in this place. So you can imagine what my week was like as the warmer temperatures are creeping up. Everybody on board to do some "spring cleaning". It is interesting how certain days we had fun, and other days there was a struggle to get anybody to do anything. My daughter found this quote meme. It made me laugh marriage is a fairy tale just in reverse you start out of the beautiful ball down and up spending all day cleaning up after little people. You know it's pretty funny because even though you're doing that it's the most rewarding cleaning and time on this earthly life. Just like it's my week happened with ups and downs of cleaning and getting things in order in preparation for the summer,it was a whole lot of communication and love and understanding and frustration and emotions with my kids as we did this. The same as a marriage.

I think we all have moments in life during our marriage that it is hard to find the humor, but this week was not one of them. In the thick of cleaning our home, we found fun and laughter.

I loved this talk from Brad Wilcox, Humor Can Improve Our Perspective

We can’t always choose what we look at, but we can choose what we see. Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught, “Jesus found special joy and happiness in children and said all of us should be more like them—guileless and pure, quick to laugh.” 2 We are all going to find ourselves in situations we have not anticipated and are not sure how to handle.

 If we laugh, we may find that at least some of the handling takes care of itself.

Laughter in marriage heals. and it is a time when you can just be mindless of the normal worries of the week.